With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, people in their loving relationships are asking themselves if they need to ask their significant other if they will be their valentine. The answer is simple: yes.

I feel that asking your partner to be your valentine is the bare minimum. It shouldn’t be a “given thing” that they’re your valentine. The act of asking makes them feel special and appreciated. especially if there is thought put into it. For example, make a sign that says “Will you be my valentine?” on it with flowers. It gives the impression that a lot of thought was put into it even if it was last minute. Even just simply asking the question could work.

Some may say that it’s assumed since they’re in a relationship, but it’s not. Not asking gives the impression that you don’t care. The only way not asking is acceptable is if your partner clearly states that they do not care or do not want to be asked.

In all seriousness though, who doesn’t want to be asked? It can be such a special, memorable moment between you and your partner. Imagine being able to tell people one day down the road about the times your partner asked you to be their valentine even while in a relationship. It’s adorable.

Another reason some might not want to be asked or ask is that they see it as “cheesy” or “corny” which is understandable quite frankly. Some people just don’t like the whole thing.

All things considered, it’s just important that you know where your significant other stands on the subject. But if you don’t know, asking is always better than not asking. Even if it isn’t their cup of tea, asking them to be your valentine is sure to make them feel special one way or another.